This monitoring is a form of self-evaluation. When a child is in control, kid may think more closely about behavior in the past and present. Set clear goals with the child; for example, an afternoon with no aggression towards others or a day at school with no self-injury.
Every fifteen minutes ask the child how they’re doing. Is the goal being met?
If the answer is no, perhaps the child is not ready for self-management, or perhaps the goals are too unattainable. You want to make sure that the goals are easy to reach at first, and then move the child towards more difficult goals in the future.
When a child is successful at self-monitoring, they will have a more positive attitude towards the experience